When questions are smug

“Why aren’t you wearing a mask?”  the older woman asked the young lady at the grocery store.  Puzzled what to say the young lady said nothing.  That’s ok, no answer was expected, and it is doubtful that anything other than an apology would have been received.

Sometimes questions are not questions, Sometimes they are a method used to trigger thought on the part of the recipient. The inquisitor is self-confident of superior understanding or behavior and is using the question to demonstrate that superiority.

At times that demonstration is warranted.  God asked the earthling “Where are you?”.  No answer was required.  Upon hearing the question, the earthling immediately knew he had erred.  An apology might have been appropriate but instead the earthling went straight to shifting the blame for his failure to God, “that woman you gave me”.

At other times such questions are a method of lording over others.  A trait that is all too pervasive in our society.  Driven by a belief that one’s own conclusions are the only right conclusions, people will venture forth inflicting torment upon those whose conclusions are deemed inferior.

The rules of re-engagement from lock-down are many and vary widely across our society.  Various sundry groups of people are abiding by one or more of the many sets of guidelines whose details are diverse to the extreme.  Some have returned to shaking hands and hugging, others are abiding by extensive strict protocols.  Each group having a sense of superior understanding over the others.

Given this diversity of thought you are very likely to become the target of such an inquisitor as you venture forth into the post-lock-down world. But remember, you are not being questioned by God, you are being questioned by a fellow traveler trying to make their way through troubled and unsure waters.  Seems best to overlook any smugness or air of superiority that often accompanies such inquiries.  Be polite, apologies, and move on, you will have avoided a worthless conversation.

Office Space

Remember the movie Office Space? Well this has nothing to do with that movie, except to trigger a desire to watch it again.

If, during the lock-down, you have shifted from working in a traditional office space to working from home, how has that worked out?
Most likely there are elements of your job that are better and some that are not so much. On the whole, is your life better or worse working from home?
In what ways are you more productive?
In what ways are you less productive?

Answers to these questions come up in conversation, especially now, has the specter of returning to the office is in view. Some can’t wait to get back. Some express that they will never do so, swearing that they are more productive and satisfied with life. Some, maybe the majority, hope for a hybrid – in the office some portion of the week and away the rest.

Commercial real estate folks have expressed concerns about the later two sets of people, what happens to office rents if portions of the workforce settle into non-traditional approaches. Some business owners, on the other side of the rent payments, see the potential for reducing a considerable expense.

One wonders if a model does not emerge whereby employees are given an office allowance. The employee is responsible for establishing working space conducive to maximum effectiveness, whether that be at home, in a co-working space, in common office space or some combination. Company offices might then be composed of mostly meeting rooms and collaboration spaces.

Sometimes a radical event will force us to reexamine old practices to see if there is a better way. Maybe more than Swingline staplers.

Killdeer take flight

If you have never, with calmed mind, walked on a gravel drive in the country, please do try it sometime.

Hear the crunch beneath your feet, watch the killdeer as he runs before you, laughing when he finally takes flight. See the orange above his tail feather, only really visible as he wings away. Feel the warm sun on your face and the wind in your hair.

Breathe, listen, see, hear, smell

The experience is like coming home, like where you belong.

Boots are highly recommended for this experience, lest a twisting ankle or stone between the bottom of your foot and the inside sole of your shoe revert your calmed mind into a raging torrent.

You over me

You do things everyday that benefit others more than yourself. And, not because it makes you feel better, that would reverse the benefit roles, no, it’s because something inside of you guides you to understand that it is the right thing to do.

The more you do such things the stronger the guiding voice becomes and the more you do them, it’s a feedback loop and a good one. One that deserves to be nurtured and cared for and allowed to flourish.

It defies logic and reason.

That’s the way love is.

Handkerchief where art thou

If you are old enough you may remember the lowly handkerchief. Little squares of cloth that were carried by men and women and used to protect the health of others.

Along with the handkerchief were protocols, one of which involved excusing yourself, finding a place where others were not down range and giving a solid blow of the nose. Coughs were similarly dealt with. Clean handkerchiefs were used to dry eyes and clear away sniffles.

All practices which slowed the spread.

Only in lockdownville.

Does anyone else find it bazaar that studies of first hundreds and now thousands of Covid-19 patients showing the benefits of treatment with an old, inexpensive, readily available, well know drug is met with skepticism by the media, while early results of 8 healthy young people for a new, expensive, not yet in production, untried drug is met with positive accolades by the very same media?

How best to invest our labor

Seems a lot of people are either contemplating a change in career direction or have undertaken one during the lock-down. And it isn’t only those whose livelihoods were deemed non-essential and who were forced to stay home. Many of those were have been working throughout the lock-down are questioning how they invest their labor contributions

You spent a great deal of your time laboring, so it makes sense you want to invest that time wisely. Maybe the lock-down has given cause for considering the investment. Maybe the constant reminder of death and uncertainty poured out by the media during this time has led to a consideration of how our time on earth is precious and ephemeral?

If that is true then it would be a positive side effect of the mess we are in. Woot!

American lovers

Life has not always been easy for us, maybe its never really easy. However, we have never watched while our children dwindled from lack of nutritious food. We have never taken turns sleeping in order to protect what food and necessities we had. And, we know enough about history, and the broader world, to be extremely grateful to have raised our children in an environment of unusual safety and abundance.

We have friends and acquaintances who have never known material comforts to the same extreme. And now, what little material comfort they had known is vanishing, or has vanished, as the world scrambles to deal with the pandemic. Jobs have been lost in parts of the world where there is no unemployment or federal stimulus checks. Crops are sometimes out of reach because of travel restrictions. Supply lines are disrupted and, most troubling, assistance from friends in the United States is in danger of waning.

You see, contrary to popular myth, the people of the United States of America are very generous and many people in the majority world have benefited greatly from that generosity.

It is not foreign government assistance or USA Rice that the people we speak with are concerned about losing, those always have strings attached and often serve the bullies and warlords more than the folks. Its the food, medicine, water wells, and a hundred other acts of love personally delivered by visiting Americans, eager to share their blessing with others. Shared blessings which have no strings, no sense of superiority, no propping up of preferred regimes, only a desire to love.

We’ve been privileged to see much of that love first hand and privileged to know many of those unheralded American lovers.

But now, America is in jeopardy, and those in the majority world know it, and are unsettled by it. They know there is no other country that generates so many individual people who give so much to love their far-away neighbors.

So America, we need to find our way through this, not just for our sake and that of our children, but also for the 265 million people who are expected to be pushed into food insecurity due to the world pandemic response. American lovers, let’s get to it.

Rainy Saturday

Gray skies, water dripping,
Feels like the gloom may never end.

Today’s rain is tomorrow’s green grass and ripe tomatoes.

Are there green pastures and delightful fruit in our post-lock-down future?
Sure there are, only, they will not have been ameliorated by the virus.

They will, however, be more appreciated.

We miss so many of you and look forward to seeing you again. Face to face.